Growing up, my mom always managed to get a homemade meal on the dinner table while working full-time outside of the house. Now that I’m in that position, I can really appreciate her hard work and efforts because I know that it’s hard. Some days it seems impossibly hard.
When my kids were younger, and we didn’t have the variety of food issues that we face today, we often relied on the convenience of processed foods. The foods we find in the middle of the grocery store – boxes, cans, frozen meals to “nuke” in the microwave (who thought that was a good way to talk about food preparation?). They helped us get something resembling a dinner on the table at a decent time after work.
Until we started to notice things that didn’t seem right. The kids were frequently sick (more than friends their age). They would often get out-of-control hyper after certain foods – like the bright orange mac n’ cheese stuff. There were other, less noticeable things too.
But then one day I watched (in horror) my son spinning, flapping, jumping & almost convulsing right in front of me. When we repeatedly asked him to stop, he kept telling us that he couldn’t. Over and over. Until, with tears running down his cheek, he asked for my help. As I held him tightly in my arms to answer his plea, I knew something was very wrong.
Later we learned that he had drank what appeared to be a healthy sports drink earlier that day. It was a clear drink that we picked up at our local recreation center but still contained artificial food coloring, along with high fructose corn syrup(HFCS) and other artificial additives. While he had negative experiences before with HFCS, nothing was this extreme. And it was a clear beverage!
His various doctors aren’t sure what triggered the reaction but they all told us that many children respond negatively to artificial additives and overly processed foods. Most children consume these ingredients so frequently, that parents just don’t recognize the signs any more. Their hyperactive state has just become the expected, the norm.
But they are there. The thing about high fructose corn syrup is that, like many things, in small quantities isn’t horrible, but can be concerning in larger doses, especially for young children. And since HFCS is everywhere (juice, bread, snacks, sodas, etc.) it makes it hard to avoid in our daily diet. And the more we consume, the more long-term impact it has on our health.
How do we avoid it? Let me tell you that it is not easy, but possible (and totally worth every effort!). In our home, we simply don’t buy food with high fructose corn syrup. Since we eat mostly fresh foods and do a lot of scratch-cooking, meals at home are the easiest. Given my son’s dairy sensitivity, we make lunches for him and our daughter to take to school so I know what’s in their lunches as well.
But outside of the meals we make at home, it’s frustratingly difficult. Restaurants serve condiments like ketchup with HFCS and I really don’t know what else on their menu uses the sweet preservative. At school or events, there’s always the temptation of a fruit roll-up, yogurt or other tasty treat most likely containing food dye. In these situations, we do our best to be prepared with snacks of our own.
My daughter thought she was making a good choice recently by choosing a cupcake at school with white frosting. I didn’t want to break her heart to tell her that the white frosting has just as much artificial food dye as the Smurf blue frosting.
My son is old enough to remember his reactions and doesn’t want to feel that way again so he knows to politely decline or read labels. If there’s any ingredient he doesn’t recognize, or one that he knows is forbidden, he won’t eat it.Yes, he’s only 6 years old. That’s how memorable and horrible his reaction was.
Although I know that avoiding high fructose corn syrup and other artificial food additives is the very best for my children, there are trade offs. The disappointment of a child who can’t enjoy cotton candy at the fair, a hot dog at the ball park, the same snack as his baseball team or a popsicle at a friend’s house. I often reflect on these memories from my own childhood and how different his memories will be.
I hope that our berry picking adventures, homemade ice cream, cookouts with friends, and visits to the farmer’s market will be the cherished food memories of his childhood that he looks back on fondly someday.
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I feel your struggles, Gina. You are such an amazing mom to do what is hard instead of what is easier, and your whole family reaps the benefits. Cooking with kids is an amazing way around some of these issues – it is great bonding time and also teaches children where their food comes from. It will allow them to take control and make better choices as they get older, too. I am proud to call you my friend – and am happy to support you however I can. You’ve got company – we are right there with you.
Oh Gina, your story just ripped my heart apart. Thinking of your son having that reaction…poor guy! I grew up in a similar household where my mom always made dinner from scratch but that included a lot of boxed, processed food. We try our best to avoid them in our home as much as possible, but it is a hard thing to avoid HFCS when we’re out and about. Yours is perhaps the most illustrative I have read of the type of reaction it can cause in our kids. Good reminder to stay vigilant about reading labels, and asking about ingredients when eating out. Thanks for sharing
We are in a similar situation. My son can’t have artificial colors, MSG, BHA/BHT/TBHQ, or MSG. It’s hard on him being the odd one out sometimes but he’s getting used to it.
I try to keep the good stuff on hand he CAN have so when all his friends are eating chips or show up with Laffy Taffys, I can give him a Hershey Kiss or Miss Vickie’s all-natural chips so he can join in the fun.
He’s 12 now, and what is interesting is that all his friends are super impressed with his “skillz”. For example, because we can’t buy Doritos, or other chips, or the food dyes and chemicals in the popcorn bags, my son knows how to make popcorn from scratch on the stove (just oil and corn). We can’t do box mixes or canned icing, so he knows how to make whipped cream (that REALLY impressed his friends. Didn’t impress me so much that he made a batch and they ate it all.) We can’t order pizza but again, friends were all impressed when we made our own and they got to add toppings.
There’s something to be said for customized cooking with love, instead of one-size-fits-all out of the box!
Thanks for sharing your story. Here’s our story of our special diet:
http://www.milehimama.com/2010/08/11/bipolar-kid-our-familys-tale-part-3/
Gina, I honor your struggle and especially I honor your son, whose self-knowledge is uncanny as it is necessary. and I know you’re giving him what he needs in spades; with no cultural shorthand that we generally agree is, surely, deliciousness, you’re writing it out by hand. what you’ll end up with will be more genuinely delicious, and better for your soul, too.
I wish we could be as disciplined as your family; I hate the artificial stuff so much, but it’s so seductive to my kids.
Michelle, Marlynn, and Sarah – thanks so much for your kind words of support. It’s been an incredibly frustrating journey but we have learned so much along they way. So has our son. It’s amazing to watch him so pleasantly enjoy a fruit leather while friends eat candy bars or processed snacks. I’m so proud of him each day.
Milehimama – thank you for sharing your story. I know you’re proud of your son as well, and rightfully so!
It’s never easy to be on a special diet, especially for children…but so very worth it.
This is why we follow the Feingold Program. http://www.feingold.org It is a non-profit organization in which volunteers research products to find ones free of artificial colors, flavors, BH preservatives. They also look for other additives including the corn syrup you mention. These petroleum based additives have a real influence on physical health, learning, & behavior & avoiding them has greatly helped my family.
Thank you for this great article.
We’ve read about the Feingold program and tried it for a while until we discovered what our food issues were. In our opinion, diets that remove artificial additives are a good choice, especially for children.
I found this Gina because of the link to my Margarita in the post below that you shared and had to comment on this. I too have a child who has reactions to dyes and HFCS. Probably numerous other things as well but we make all of our food and use minimal processed foods. The way we found out was after a sickness where we had given her cherry Tylenol and some cough medicine..terrible, crazy state she ended up in. Process of elimination and here we are! Kudos to you for fighting the fight for your family! It is tough but definitely getting easier as more and more companies are realizing it’s not what we want!
Judy – I’m so glad you shared your story here. Thank you. I believe that more children are like ours and have sensitivities to artificial additives, food colors (artificial) and HFCS – there seems to be more families, more studies and more cases being highlighted daily.
I hope that someday, our American food manufacturers will bring “home” the natural, artificial additives and HFCS free food that they sell in Europe and other countries for the families here in the US. Our children deserve it!
Gina,
Your story moved me to tears. The thought of holding your baby and not knowing what was going on, so frightening.
I love your efforts and commitment to making sure this doesn’t happen again. Patrick will no doubt have wonderful memories of his childhood and never even remember that what he didn’t have.
We made the decision a few months back to eliminate HFCS from our diet. Although we don’t have the food sensitives we do have some other things going on. My older daughter has Apraxia of speech, mild ocd, and mild sensory issues. I work hard every day to make sure that we catch her up and get her back on track. In doing so, I try to eliminate anything that would possibly set us back. HFCS made my list.
My girls probably still get a taste of it here and there but they are not consuming it normally and frankly will never know they missed out.
Thank you for this inspiring story and for reminding me to keep up the hard work of keeping it out of our diets!
Kudos to you and your family!
Gina as hard as it is to share this story, you are helping so many other parents and giving them hope!
Jodi – It was terrifying. One of those horrible parenting moments that you’ll never forget. When we’re faced with the challenges of keeping HFCS & additives out of their diets, I remember that moment. I applaud your efforts, too, and wish you well with your family. It’s only my opinion, but I think the toxins in our environment and diets are responsible for many of the issues our children face today.
Becca – Thanks for your thoughtful support. It wasn’t easy for us to share this private moment (and even harder for Justin), but we want other parents to know about our experience and bring awareness to the potential effect of HFCS, artificial additives and food coloring on kids.
Hello Gina. Stumbled onto your blog via the Food Revolution FB page. I’m in the UK and have two small children (4 this week and 20 months) and I was really shocked to read about your son’s terrible reaction to HFCS. Here it’s called glucose-fructose syrup – sounds almost nutritious doesn’t it – and it’s in everything here too. Like you, we grow our own veggies and cook everything from scratch. It’s my oldest daughter’s 4th birthday this week and I’m making jelly – think you call it jell-o. All commercial packets have it in it so I will be making it with gelatine and fruit smoothie that I will dilute a wee bit so it’s not too strong.
Lots of my friends think I’m a bit dotty avoiding artificial sweeteners and gfs and hydrogenated fats in food. We don’t buy an awful lot of processed foods but even something as innocent as yogurt can be a minefield.
Keep up the good work and know you’re not alone!
Jill, Colchester, Essex, UK
We need to start a writing campaign to the food industry telling them we will not purchase there products till they quit putting in the HFCS and poisoning our children